do you have a list of alternative pronouns to he/she? I'm trying to find a good set for when I'm feeling more agender, but can't find a good list anywhere : / thank you!
Huh. I don’t have a pronoun list. Maybe that’s what I’ll do next.
Neutral and agender wise, I know of they/them, ne/nir, ne/nem, ey/eir, e/eir. There’s also sie/hir, sie/zir, xe/hir, xe/xir, ze/hir, ze/zir, which (as I understand) are more queer than neutral.
you can be non-binary and still want to be referred to as he or she
you can be non-binary and still want to be someone’s girlfriend/boyfriend
you can be non-binary and be in a straight-passing relationship
you can be non-binary and want to refer to yourself with gendered language
there is no right way to be non-binary
your identity is perfect the way it is
don’t ever feel like you’re ~not queer enough~ because just by existing you are queer enough.
"Not truely part of them" fuck that as a mixed POC I'mleaving this BS beacuse I get identity policed enough as it is by white folk telling me I cant ID as a culture I AM PART OF beacuse guess what mixed people fucking exist & dont need more id policnby Anonymous
Yeah, that isn’t what I said at all. I said that it would be impossible to truely be part of EVERY SINGLE CULTURE. Obviously that isn’t good for sending angry anon messages, so you jumped quite a big way there to get “you can’t be more than one culture” instead.
I’m not even sure why I bother replying to messages like this, it’s not like you’re going to read it.
Okay, I need some info and help.
Pangender, if taken literally, means identifying/being ALL POSSIBLE GENDERS. I’m not even sure how that’s possible.
So, it would include culturally specific genders, which would mean people outside of those cultures couldn’t ID as pangender without being culturally appropriative. Plus, there are many cultures with their own culturally specific genders - I’m almost certain you couldn’t actually be part of all of those cultures, at least not living in them enough to be truly a part of them, which means nobody could ID as pangender without being culturally appropriative.
My issue is, it’s a word that exists. Is that just from logical connections of prefixes, or do people ID as pangender?
People who ID as pangender - do you define it literally or in some way which is not an appropriation catch22? IE pansexual/panromantic is attraction to all genders and Pan-Africa is the concept of a united African continent, but pantheism isn’t a belief in all possible gods and faiths, it’s a belief that everything is god (way oversimplified).
ah the problem about pangender is that identifying as all genders necessarily includes genders like boi or two-spirit that only certain cultures can really be, so it's kinda ehhhhhhhhhhhby Anonymous
I have two-spirit with a note that it’s a Native American concept, and boi with a definition that tries to include all the contradictory definitions and claims to origins.
please DON'T add pangender, like you said actually nobody really should be using it, it's binarist and appropriative especially when used by white people who are implicitly involved in erasing the non-binary identities of non-white peoples (*i am white but i'm parroting what i've heard from non-white bloggers, if anyone who is not white wants to make a correction please let me know but that seems to be the general consensus on the term)
Okay. I hadn’t really taken it literally, but tbh I hadn’t really understood it.
Hey this is kind of miscellaneous, but as a replacement for fanboy/fangirl, i coined fanby (alt spelling: fanbie or fanb) and fanenby (alt spelling: fanenbie). Distinctly queer, as it's derived from nb/enby (nonbinary), but can be used as a gender-neutral term as well. Can be used as a direct replacement for either fanboy or fangirl (i.e. used as a noun, verb, wherever fanboy/fangirl would go)
New words are always welcome :) added!