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(part 2) I tend to wear male clothes and my hair is pretty traditionally masculine, but unfortunately because of my body shape I’m still read as female unless I wear really thick, baggy sweatshirts. I don’t really have a problem with my body, but I definitely don’t like the assumptions people make based on it. Unfortunately, I’m also a really shy person and I don’t like the idea of having to talk to so many people about issues relating to my gender.(part 3) Do you know of any way I could transition without making my gender into a big deal? I would really like to present more androgynously and use my preferred name/pronoun/title full-time, but right now I don’t even know where to start. It feels like I’m going to have to educate the whole world just to be recognized as who I am, and I don’t think I’m up to the challenge.
Hi anon :)
It’s normal and common to feel like that, as it’s hard to move through life not fitting into the gender binary, especially in somewhere like college. Most people think in binary, and will put everyone they meet in one of two boxes.
Presenting androgynously is difficult, as what people see as androgynous is related to so many other things, and people are often reluctant to see even androgynous appearing people as outside those two boxes. Your name and title are easiest - just start introducing yourself with them, and using them. People might ask what your title means, but they’ll use your name if it’s the one you answer to - even if they see it as a nickname.
I find it quite hard to be genderqueer in a binary world, and am probably just a slightly strange girl/woman to most people I meet, so if anyone else has any other advice for anon, that would be great.
