you can be non-binary and still want to be referred to as he or she
you can be non-binary and still want to be someone’s girlfriend/boyfriend
you can be non-binary and be in a straight-passing relationship
you can be non-binary and want to refer to yourself with gendered language
there is no right way to be non-binary
your identity is perfect the way it is
don’t ever feel like you’re ~not queer enough~ because just by existing you are queer enough.
Chibi Italy or Chibitalia in Hetalia.
Hu is seen as a gender neutral chibi with a male body but female clothes and acts like a girl but never pronounces gender, growns up as a feminine man. Feliciano Vargas in Hetalia.
[Submitted by loveleopluradon]
You know what’s funny?
Nobody ever seems to say, “Gender doesn’t exist, therefore all these labels are arbitrary and meaningless, therefore it doesn’t matter what I call you, therefore I have no reason to use any terms other than the ones you choose for yourself. Neither I nor no one else has a horse in this race, so the way you identify is all anybody has to go on.”
Nobody even ever seems to say, “Gender doesn’t exist, therefore I shall not recognize anyone as men or women, but refer to everyone using gender neutral terms and pronouns regardless of their preference.”
It’s always, “Gender doesn’t exist, therefore, I shall basically interact with everyone in the same way as the vast majority of the population who believe that gender does exist, except for being a little bit more pointed about it when I dump on trans* people.”
I’m not saying there aren’t any decent, respectful people out there who are “gender agnostic”, as one radfem/MRA put it when justifying her trans* outting/hitlist website. But they’re not the ones who feel the need to go around telling people that gender doesn’t exist.
Since, judging from my Dashboard several “gender abolitionists” are either using the term agender or they are becoming associated with it, it needs to be said:
SOME OF US ARE HONESTLY AGENDER, NEUTROIS, OR SOME VARIANT OF GENDERLESS BUT ARE NOT GENDER ABOLITIONISTS.
That is some appropriative bullshit going on. Just because I identify as agender, doesn’t mean I want the whole fucking world to “abandon the concept of gender.”
Just so you fuckin’ know. :|